Thursday, April 30, 2009

Jack is 7

He loves me. He tells me and shows me. I love him for that.

I know I've been a complete blog slacker lately, but I have to draw the line when I don't post on my beautiful boy's birthday!! Jack had his 7th birthday last week and I just have to brag a little bit about him to celebrate.

Her is the text from an email I got on Sunday from one of his Sunday school teachers:

Kara, I just wanted to let you know how ENDEARING Jack is. The combo of he and the other kids can be a bit over the top in class at times, but there is just something about Jack. Its like he has this magical power over us that we cannot get frustrated with him. He has this subtle charm about him. We can't place our fingers on what it is. Maybe its the twinkle in his eye, or that grin, or that voice. His voice just kills me. I adore it. I don't know, but he is going to be a charmer with the ladies I am sure when he is older. Maybe a class clown, with the charm in tow. You know, the class clowns that never got in trouble because they had that charm wrapped up in their clowning around. You can't learn that. You are just born with it. Anyway, just wanted to let you know that I ADORE him.
Yes, I cried...and loved this person so much for writing me. It made me realize that I need to outwardly express the kind feelings I have for others more often. It seriously was the highlight of my week/month.

In keeping with my kids birthday posts this year I will document for your enjoyment (okay...my history) the birth story of my second born. Jack was born 11 days late by some estimates. They changed my due date at one point, but I think they should have left it alone. Because Ella was Early by the Dr.'s estimates (can you tell I'm wary of due dates) I was fully expecting Jack to follow suit. BOY was I wrong. I felt like I was a month overdue.
Jack at about 6 months

I went in for an appointment on my due date and was sure they would tell me I was ready. NOPE! I was sent home with assurances that they wouldn't see me the next week for my scheduled appointment, but would see me in the hospital sometime in the next few days. Wrong again. I went in the next week. Many people were wondering why I wasn't demanding to be induced, but because of the poor induction experiences of family members I didn't want to go that route.

At my 41 week appointment the Dr. scheduled me for an induction if the baby hadn't come by Monday. I was determined to have Jack before that. I knew he was going to be a big baby, but that didn't scare me. Of course the Dr.'s thought he might be as big as Ella (8 pounds 5 ounces) but not much bigger. I knew they were wrong.
Jack as Harry Potter Halloween 2002

I did everything I could to get that labor started. Really...everything (okay except for Castor oil...too risky). I even jumped on my neighbors trampoline for an hour one night. NOT pretty. My poor mother had already been in town for almost two weeks anticipating the arrival of the baby. We were living in Kentucky at the time and it was close to derby. Now, anyone who knows anything about Kentucky knows that time revolves around derby. The calendar year is the derby calendar. It just so happened that the day after my 41 week appointment was "Thunder over Louisville". It is an amazing day that kicks off the derby festival season, and finishes with the most amazing fireworks show ever.

My mom was kind enough to stay home with Ella while Paul and I braved the crowds downtown. It was crazy and I had to walk A LOT! We were climbing, pushing, shoving, and maneuvering through crowds to get to a good spot to catch the action. I must say I was moving pretty good for a 9+month prego. The fireworks were incredible and it shook my chest to the core (I love that). I swear every year we lived there at least one woman went into labor after the fireworks. On the way home I was having a lot of contractions, but that wasn't unusual. I have braxton hicks contractions constantly starting at about 6 months...it's pathetic.
Jack and his yellow rain boots. He wore these boots almost everyday for about 6 months. I'm still kicking myself for not keeping them. I know I could do something cool with them.

We got home and I tried to go to sleep, but the contractions got stronger. By about 1:30am I convinced Paul that he needed to take me to the hospital. We got up and headed downtown. I got all hooked up and they confirmed that I was dialated to a 7. I got an epidural (big regret) and it put me in a major holding pattern. I tried to get them to break my water because I knew that would do the trick. They said they couldn't do it without a Dr. present and they didn't want to call him in because it was so early in the morning. So, there I waited until the Dr. came for his normal rounds around 8:00am. By this time they wanted me to be ready to have the baby so that the Dr. wouldn't have to come back later. (Yes...it was all about him)

What happened next I now realize was crazy, and wish I woudn't have let them do it. They gave me potocin so that when the Dr. came in to check me I would be ready. The contractions were unbelievable. It was obvious to me where my epidural started because below my belly button I couldn't feel a thing, and above it was pure torture. Jack was a big baby, and I carried him very very high. When the Dr. did come in I was at an 8. Of course he broke my water and in less than a minute I was at a 10 and ready to push. At that point I was so ready to be done with the contractions that I pushed him out in about 5 minutes.

John McMillian (aka Jack) was born at a whopping 9 pounds 14 ounces. Just 2 ounces shy of the 10 pound mark. I wasn't surprised...all the medical staff was. Jack was the most beautiful boy I had ever seen. The first thing I noticed was his big gorgeous lips and huge crying mouth. I wanted to kiss it forever. I think it freaked Paul out a little bit at first because they are so swollen. He still has the most amazing full red lips and I love to kiss them. The next best thing was his red hair. I love red hair and I was thrilled that Paul's genetics allowed me to give birth to one.
See those lucious lips?! And that hair...? Can you tell I'm in love?

I cannot even describe the love that I immediatley had for this boy. I had fallen completely and hopelessly in love with him. He still has my heart and I never want him to grow up. I watch him at everything he does and am amazed at how well he 'gets it.' He excels at school and sports, and he has a ton of friends. Jack is a boy to watch. We know there are great things to come with him. Like the email from his teacher said, "there's just something about Jack."

Happy Birthday buddy...I love you more than all the numbers!

14 comments:

Ted and Leslie said...

Kara you amaze me! What a great kid Jack sounds like. Reading your birthday blogs makes me appreciate even more my own little red heads, and it even made me nostalgic for the days that I delievered them. But man oh man - I delivered a nine pounder and thought I was going to die - I have an even deeper respect for the fact that you went more than 41 weeks and delivered such a big boy! What a great good looking kid!

Glad you are blogging again!

Leslie

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Kristi said...

Kara Jayne, I've been thinking about you, missin' ya actually, missing being inspired by your daily life, your beautiful family, and all that you do that amazes me. I am sorry about your little slump, believe me, I understand, as all of us do. You'll get your mojo back soon, girl. Until then, know you have MANY....as the song goes... "standing by ya!"

Ashley said...

Happy Birthday to that sweet Jack! Sure wish we could see him(/you) more! You have amazing kids Kara and its no doubt due to you their amazing mother. I wish I could be a fly on your wall to see how you do it because sometimes I have no idea what I'm doing and am praying I don't screw up Anna for life! I loved reading your birth story too. Those first few moments of their life are so special. It seems like slow motion.

I'm sorry about your slump. I'm in a bit of a rut myself right now too, so I'm there with ya. Let me know how you get out! If you're going to UT for Women's Conference, have fun! I'm sure that will help! Love you!!!

Melissa P said...

Your little guy is so cute! I can't imagine having a baby almost 10 pounds. Wow! Glad to see you posting again.

Angie said...

I still remember the day that I watched Ella for you while you went to the hospital hoping to have a baby...must have been before your mom arrived...only to come home with a look somewhere between disappointed and annoyed! But what a great story it turned out to be! I wish we lived closer, I think Layton and Jack would be buddies!

Annie Sunshine said...

Too funny, just this morning Bryce was quoting a line from the Incredibles, and I had a flash of Jack telling me his name was "Jack, Jack", and I can remember him often saying in the middle of some nursery art project or song "That's totally wicked!" I loved that little guy too. Since I only had two in the nursery it was easy to get attached!

Laura said...

Kara, you're a great mom... that's why you have great kids! What a great tribute to Jack. And what a nice sunday school teacher! Love those moments when we get complements about our kids.

Nichols Family said...

Happy Birthday Jack!!!!

Kara I heard you were up in UT for Women's Conf. I saw Heather R. and Shawni but no YOU! Hope to see you here in AZ soon though!

-Jennie N.

Photo Crazy! said...

Of course he is 7! It was fun being pregnant together. That was the best baby blessing day ever! We sure have darling boys! I can't believe it has been 7 years since we left KY. Happy Birthday Jack!

Hazen5 said...

How can you not love this boy, he's adorable!

So fun visiting with you!

queenieweenie said...

I LOVE birth stories!!! Is there anything better? It's like 100 Christmas mornings wrapped into 1.

I cannot BELIEVE you gave birth to a 10+ pounder? How is that possible? You are so stinkin tiny. And then there was me-who couldn't push out anything more that a 6+pounder (and I definitely ain't tiny:)

I adore the red hair. Do you think he would go for an older woman? My Sammy is pretty cute too!

I loved seeing you last week-what a kick.

e.wilson said...

this little boy is beeeeautiful! i love listening to him talk, kara. lovely. all four of them are lovely.

xo
e

Jen Frost said...

Happy Birthday Jack! You are a sweetheart! I'm so glad you and Teagan are friends. I love that picture of him as Harry Potter when he was a baby.